What day is it? …. It's Monday
7 Tips to Reduce Stress
A good friend of mine was telling me that she is really concerned about the Kardashian and the basketball player and how she hopes they don’t get divorced. I would love to give you more details on it, but I have no idea what she is talking about, I don’t watch that show. But what struck me, was that these weren't friends of hers, these people she would probably never meet in real life or have any sort of personal connection and yet, through TV and media, she was genuinely concerned for their marriage and even stressing over it. The affects of drama and stress in our lives can take a toll mentally and physically. So here's some tips and tricks to help manage that stress. And since its Monday, it seemed like good timing.
When stress starts to invade your life, tension starts to build:
- Shoulders tense up
- Head or back may begin to ache
- Jaw clenches
- Short fuse
- Feeling helpless, hopeless or tired
- Eat more or less than usual
- Pick up a cigarette or cocktail
- Work extra hours at your job
- Toss and turn in your bed at night.
These all can be typical response behaviors to stress and none of which will really help you deal with your stress in the long run and often exacerbate physical ailments that you are already suffering from.
Here are some suggestions. Of course stress comes in many different forms and duration ... so find what works for you and for your health.
- Learn How to Say NO – Many of us are faced with moral obligation to say Yes – especially if guilt is involved. Know your limitations, both professionally and personally and learn to say NO for your health.
- Don’t Borrow Drama – I heard this term somewhere a few years back and I love it. It’s when you have a superficial connection to stress that doesn't need to involve you directly. So what if the Kardashians are having a bad day. It doesn't involve you personally and just because they are on TV doesn't mean you need to absorb their drama and carry it with you for the day. Enjoy the show for entertainment purposes, but don’t stress over it.
- He’s going to blow!! – When you hear someone say, “I just don’t know how much I can take before I am going to lose it.” Don’t wait that long. Communicate, talk, and work it out as you go. It’s unhealthy to keep things bottled up … and eventually, something is going to give.
- Do something fun and LAUGH – When you are stressed it’s sometimes hard to think of things you enjoy doing. But you owe it to yourself to really sit and think about it. It’s amazing how something like playing catch, watching a comedy or gardening can take the stress level down a few notches.
- Skip the pizza and take a walk – Stress, diet and exercise are very well entangled. Skip the greasy pizza and go for a healthy dinner choice instead. Bad food choices can affect your sleep, leaving you feeling tired and irritable the next day. Don’t forget to get moving physically so you can stay mentally and physically strong for those who depend on you. If you find you have a lack of energy, look into natural supplements that can help you find that extra pep in your step.
- Look at the big picture – Think back at the things that really stressed you out when you were 15, 25, 35. Do they still affect you today? Probably not. That probably applies to today. See if the stress storm you are under right now is a permanent weather pattern in your life or just really a passing cloud.
- Meditate – You don’t have to carve out a half hour in your day to sit cross legged in your zen room to find your center. Sometimes it’s just a few minutes sitting in your car in the parking lot before you start your workday. But give yourself some time to find your peace … to assess your day, calm down any hectic thoughts. Intentionally lower your shoulders, close your eyes, breathe in and out and give yourself a positive pep talk.
Some physical signs of stress may be caused by your medical condition or by prescriptions you take. If you aren't sure what's causing your physical symptoms, especially if your stress level seems elevated suddenly after beginning medication, then ask your doctor if the medicines you take are making you feel extra irritable, anxious or stressed.